I can’t recall which shocked me the most, the news of Kate Spade or Anthony Bourdain or Robin Williams or…
I could go on, but I can’t. I can’t wrap my head around people that I admire, they seem to have everything, talent and brains and success and children and love and…
And yet they take their own lives, many of them leaving young children behind, left behind to make sense of what seems like a senseless tragedy.
But perhaps we can take something out of this, to learn about mental illness and perhaps to begin to give the support to research and treatment that so many of us need.
Few of us can understand the depths of depression that someone must fall to in order to get to the place where suicide seems the only viable option. But we are learning more about depression and mental illness to understand that, for many of these people, they didn’t kill themselves to hurt their children, but because they thought they were sparing their children. It’s been referred to as a “suicide trance” where the person believes his loved ones would be better off without him in the picture.
Depression doesn’t care how much money you make or what level of career success you’ve enjoyed. It can put its victims into a pit where the sadness is physically painful and hope is nonexistent.
If you feel depressed and alone, please reach out to us. We are all Smart Mamas, and we understand how tough it can be and how alone you can feel, even when surrounded by your children.
And Smart Mamas, let’s resolve to do an act of kindness every day, reach out to someone who you think may need some help. We’ll all be better for it in the end.
Help is available, including at the suicide hotline (800-273-8255).